So guys here is my view on the matter, please feel free to quote me to others lol...For many years and I mean many, women have cried over their men being unfaithful, cried over why he cheated, cried over the fact he cheated and are still crying at the fact that he hasn’t stop cheating. My view on cheating has grown somewhat mature over the years when I realised frankly a man cheating half the time has nothing to do with the woman at home, he does it because he can (it’s in his nature) and will keep doing it because frankly he can get away with it to a certain degree. You have all probably heard the adage that men get bored tasting the same soup blah blah whatever, but my take is if you’re bored then change your ingredients and spice it up, simple. (Listen we all eat rice in many different forms with many different stews, vegs, etc but note the rice doesn’t change its only what you add to it that makes it seem your eating a new dish every day, so spice up your rice) meaning find new and exciting ways to keep the relationship alive and working for you, going to somebody else’s bed isn’t the solution, it’s just the beginning of generational problems.
From a young age you are constantly painted a picture of what love should be (loving partner, 2 kids, big house blah blah) and thanks to the world of Disney some of us forever live in this fantasy world waiting for our Prince charming who will be faithful, true and all the above on the ‘things I want in a man list’, but truth be told there is no happy ever after because after the happy ever after comes the reality (Disney left that part out). Many of my friends have cried to me over and over on catching their men being unfaithful, hell I have cried over it myself but now I have come to realise that cheating shouldn’t always be a bond breaker, oh no sir you’re not getting away from me that easily (ok so if his an excessive cheat and has slept with your sister, then best friend, then office mate or anything in a cheap or expensive skirt over and over then erm girl don’t be stuck on stupid his got to go).
Men cheat point blank and I won’t be naive in any relationship again to think hmmm my man wont cheat on me, seriously all I can do is hope and pray that when that times comes his smart enough to remember what he has and what his about to lose for a few minutes of lustful pleasure and when I say lose I don’t necessary mean I am walking out the door but best believe getting back into my good books will have you wishing I just left. (Please note: this is only if I have invested my time, faith and prayer into the relationship, other than that if I’ve only know you for five minutes and your creeping sweetie she can keep you.)
So the question is ‘Am I open to the idea of an open relationship’? erm ‘HELL TO THE NO’, if a man wants to date me exclusively well then that means me and you and not me & Steven plus you and Doreen (random names). No matter how mature you think the idea is or how comfortable you are with it, or the fact you feel times are changing so it’s better to be honest about your infidelity upfront rather than creeping, being in an relationship means being committed to one person SIMPLE. I mean its bad enough that when you sleep together you’re sleeping with every other person your partner has ever slept with (Oh Lord the soul ties) but then adding to that after you become exclusive is just damn right stuck on thick. It’s one thing to cheat behind my back (far away from me as possible) but to face me and boldly say honey I will be with her tonight is a damn right disrespect and truly your response should be ‘ok honey but I sure as hell won’t be here when you get back’ NOT ‘ok honey your dinner will be in the microwave when you return’.
This isn’t just aimed at men cheating because truly times are changing and women are creeping just as much as guys do, in fact a woman creeping is pre mediated and that’s what men need to understand. Women don’t act on impulse like men nope we act on emotions, so when a woman cheats it’s because she’s hurting and wants to get you back not because she truly wants to. We just wasn’t built that way no matter what anyone makes you believe it’s not in us to be hoping in and out of a man’s bed when we’ve got a man at home (unless that’s her 9-5 then dearest you better reconsider who your calling wifey.) A Woman cheating most of the time is out of resentment, remember I told you we act on emotions and that’s why I can’t comprehend why a woman should suggest such a stupid idea unless she is dealing with some sort of locked up pain and in order not to be hurt again she wants to hide behind this front called ‘open relationship’, making it easier for her to know if her man is creeping and have an excuse to go creep too! Seriously what I say is, you’re boo boo the fool if you think sleeping with many guys and then coming home to your boo is a healthy way of living. If it works for you then cool but we all know behind closed doors something isn’t right no matter how much you paint a pretty picture eventually the cracks will show.
What love or security do you know whenever your partner is sleeping with someone else, romancing someone else and you having the ability to do the same that’s just pathetic ignorance and you seriously need counselling to deal with that demon holding you in foolhardiness. Picture you coming home to the one you supposedly love smelling of another, or when your cuddling you are thinking of that other person you was with two nights ago....if you don’t want anyone to answer to and want to go and come as you please then stay in the single pool and keep dating.
Monogamy isn’t dead and I truly believe that if you love someone you should forsake all others, being promiscuous in a relationship is just pathetic yeap I'll say it again, its pathetic.
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